I agree with azguy (but of course I would, he's AZ guy).
The mind-reading trying to figure out what she means is keeping you stuck. Respond to her honestly and authentically if you think you need to, there's no need to get into a deep conversation about the subject.
Get out of her head and into yours.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss