One of the differences between my sitch, and other stories on this forum, at least the ones I've read, is that my XW, as far as I know, does not know I still have an interest in reconciling. The divorce was finalized in January. Since then, I have been working on re-establishing a better co-parenting relationship, with a goal of developing a friendship with her.
My DB coach recommended no R talk right now, and I've been following that. Giving her the book, would be done in the spirit of wishing her well, and that she take care of herself. However, I could see her interpreting it as a sign that I remain interested in reconciling. That would probably backfire. And, yeah, Crimson, the title doesn't exactly help things.
H: 38 xW: 38 M: 16 T: 18 S: 9 BD: 2/2012 W moved out 4/2012 D: 11/2012