Looking for a little advice and support

[azguy]

Hi cbt, Following your story and trying to glean good advice from it. Thanks for sharing.

"Can someone help me understand why evn though W says she wants to work on it at some point it seems like I'm having a harder time not thinking about it?"

You mentioned that she didn't believe you earlier, when you said you wouldn't hold not going to RetroV against her. This sounds to me like the same feeling with the tables turned. You're not sure you can trust her, maybe? If you're both having the same feelings of willingness and distrust, it is at least a starting point.

I'd say unless you can say something about the house sale in a way that sounds nonmeddling, or not trying to apply pressure, it will just work against you. My DB coach likes to point out that often WAW in these situations are like teenagers (not meant to be an insult to them, just a useful comparison). They are very defensive about being independent. Assuring her that you trust her to make good decisions was her advice on how to approach these situations.