Trying to get some thoughts out here and I suspect my thinking needs to be corrected...
H posted pictures on fb this week twice of hikes he's been taking. H has never hiked before, never enjoyed the great outdoors, would rarely go on walks with me, always had some ache or pain to complain about, it's a new lifestyle apparently. OW on the other hand, has years of hiking pictures posted on her fb. So I can only assume they're hiking together.
Here is my complaint - it hurts to know that he's making a 'new life' for himself. With new interests that are outside our family. Here's the other side of that coin, I have been trying to make a new life for myself too so maybe it shouldn't bother me as much... I've worked really hard to GAL so why can't he? Because my GALing has been in addition to the changes made in my family, around our kids. His GALing has been only for himself, sacrificing nothing for our kids. A friend suggested maybe OW introduced him to a new activity and he really enjoys it now. But if that were the case, why not call kids and say 'hey, let's go for a hike'. For a man that says he works so much, has no time, which I believe to be true because he's been like that for years - if you do have a couple days to enjoy the great outdoors 1) ask your kids to join!! 2) share your experience with kids! 3) get out of the woods and see your kids more than 4 hours a month! So this all boils down to him choosing to be dragged up and down a hill with OW than spending time with kids.
Which leads me to, why does he post these pics at all? Again, it's not something he's sharing in the way of communicating - hey I've been doing something new I really enjoy and want you kids to come with some time. It's more of a slap in the face because it reads as 'I have a new life without my family, I have moved on'. Meanwhile I'm home with the kids where my live still revolves around their schedule. And it reads that he has time and chooses to avoid his kids/our family. I know that's a common choice other WAH makes, I guess this it new in the way that he hasn't before posted pics of his other choices so it's a new reality that I'll have to adjust to. And I hate having the digital proof to kids that he doesn't want to spend time with them.
I know I'm feeling sorry for myself today. Just makes it hard in the 'being friendly' stage with H when he clearly is forging and enjoying a new/different life as man without a family. I will never be able to have that freedom. I guess I'm feeling bitter today.