JJ, btw, I'm right with you on not wanting a new relationship. Although my ex played the field quite a bit before settling in w/ her current BF, I'm just different, I guess. Even though the chances if any reconciliation appear to be remote at best, taking my time feels right to me too. Keep us posted.
Me: 48 EW: 40 D8, D12 Married 13 wonderful years D in Apr-12