Well got up late today i'm really not a late sleeper but have been slowly sleeping later and later. I hate it hate hate hate it!
Well I have still got no reply from W from the last text about a week ago. It is ok cause I do not want to force the issue with her. But Here is my problem I just feel like I want to texted her just to say hi. I just do not know what to do anymore. To be totaly honest I just would like to even meet up just to talk as a friend. Is that crazy of me.
No it's not crazy - not at all. I feel exactly the same way. I miss my W more than I ever thought possible - unfortunately at this point in time she doesn't feel the same.
Do not pursue!
W 39 Me 33 M 9yrs 8 year old Son ILYBINILWY - Dec 12 W moved out - Jan 2013 OM - Jan 2013 I file for D - May 2013
I know it is so hard. The past few weeks maybe longer there are times I sit and just think of the good times we had and in my dreams the ones I can remember are all good ones of us getting back together. So all this just makes it harder. I dont want to pressure the W. But I do feel that I should continue to try to contact her. But also it may look like i am pressuring her from her side...
Well sorry we are both here but I do say this is a good place that has helped me get thru the hard times.
Good point , I guess this has been going on for about 1 year. I was thinking of waiting a bit or until I talk to my coach. I know this is very stupid but im sure I am not the only one that thinks this. If I stop contacting her she will just move on. the saying is out of sight out of mind....
I know this is very stupid but im sure I am not the only one that thinks this. If I stop contacting her she will just move on. the saying is out of sight out of mind....
We all think this. The thing is, our spouses can "move on" no matter how much we contact them. That's just the reality.
Hold tight for now... she didn't even reply to your last text, why would you try again? It looks needy. -Very unattractive.
Wait until you talk to your coach.
Now go out and do something fun or constructive. Doctors orders.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
I know this is very stupid but im sure I am not the only one that thinks this. If I stop contacting her she will just move on. the saying is out of sight out of mind....
We all think this. The thing is, our spouses can "move on" no matter how much we contact them. That's just the reality.
Hold tight for now... she didn't even reply to your last text, why would you try again? It looks needy. -Very unattractive.
Wait until you talk to your coach.
Now go out and do something fun or constructive. Doctors orders.
Thanks Doc I did do just that. I went to dinner and toof food to my mom in the nursing home. So me my mom and dad all had dinner together. It was nice. I also did some window shopping windows shopping for my saltwater tank.
thanks FY i guess it is just a little more on my mind as this is now a year and the looking back what happen a year ago. I know i should not do that but it was on my mind...
OK just venting here i guess, I have been keeping myself busy all day. Lots to get done around the house. Put away xmass decorations out side. I even took my motorcycle out today. I am going to ride tomorrow too.
How ever even being busy why do i still feel like crap. I hate what has happend to me. I have to say that i just cant get my W out of my head no matter what I try. Most of the thinking I have of W are all happy times and I would love to share more with her. Crap what the hell is wrong with her why cant she just do something. I mean for a long time now there has been no movement one way or the other. Crap if she wants a divorce what the hell is she waiting on. She also said she wanted to be friends and was dieing to just talk to me. this was said some time ago. But c'mon does she know that she needs to come to the table and talk. what the heck is she doing. I still want to work it out. But she is so cold i just dont get it.
can some one here please help me to make sense of all this or am i just totally losing my mind!!!! some thing really has to happen here at some point.
Ok so I could not sleep last night. All did manage to get a few hrs as i finaly got to sleep at 6 am.
All I could do is think about going out to drive past wifes house. I did talk myself out of it but it is back today. I cant say what i will do. I just have not talked or texted my W since the last texts about 2 weeks. I just hate this so much that she is not trying. I mean even if she wants a divorce she would still need to talk to me. I mean ever a note of texts to say I want a divorce. She is just not doing anything nor saying anything. this is driving me nuts.
Well I guess as soon as my pants are washed and dry I may take a ride on my motorcycle. It helped me yesterday so maybe it will help today. I just dont want to get sick. I ride yesterday i think made me a little sick. so I will just wait and see.
Ok well most of the day was ok. I was out im my motorcycle most the day. Yes I did drive past W house a few times and she was not home. Yes i know not good to do but i did.
I just guess i really have a desire to find out if she is seeing someone Guy or Girl. I just need to know not sure why but just saying how i feel today
Why the hell is she not even repling to a text i sent 2 weeks ago now. I have not reached out to her for 2 weeks. I just do not know what to do next with her. Do I continue to just wait for her to contact me or do i try to reach out agaain. I am really confused but also venting. I do love her but she is making it so hard. I guess i will wait till i talk to the coach on thursday. just wish i did not have to wait so long
I did do just that. I went to dinner and toof food to my mom in the nursing home. So me my mom and dad all had dinner together. It was nice. I also did some window shopping windows shopping for my saltwater tank.