AZ, I'm in the same sitch as you. I've been divorced 11 months now & I'm miserable. My ex was a WAS. She had an affair, got caught, claimed she hadn't been happy for yrs, & wanted the D. She immediately started dating around and has been with her current BF for 8 mos.
Is your ex seeing anyone?
It looks like I'm going to have to wait out my exes current relationship to have any chance. Plus, I'm thinking my ex may actually be happier now. Crazy stuff. Good luck, I'll be tooting for you!
Me: 48 EW: 40 D8, D12 Married 13 wonderful years D in Apr-12