Hi MaL.

Welcome.

You're going through really hard times - coming here will make it a little easier.

Read what Cadet has posted.

Pay ALOT of attention to the "detach" advice.

Post on your thread as much as you can - it can be very helpful to connect with others who understand the sitch.

Good luck, God bless.

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.