~need advice with going dark~

[25yearsmlc]

well for starters.... I am in the home that my W and step daughter has been in for the past 7 yrs... I bought her out of the home....


Whoaa! That was fast! Why so fast? Why on earth if this is only 3 months old? Wow.. and where is YOUR d?


she is now renting a home on the other side of town... her daughter is having hard time...... she has contacted me on two different holidays.... my bday.... and valentines day.... just to say she loved me and that she misses me and wished her mom and I were still together....

so how often do you reach out to her? And what did you give her for a Valentine's gift/contact? Negril, you can't abandon your sd b/c her mom left you. You said yourself you raised her as if she were your own....

I hope you will step it up for her. ASAP>


I will be honest.. when my daughter came to live with us she did steal from W's daughter once ..... out of her piggy bank... which I repay'd the min I found out that my D stole from her D..... trying to make it right....

You paying it back does not make it right. It's making your d pay that might have helped. You paying it off just repays stolen property.

I imagine The sense of violation of your SD must have been terrible. And did your d feel "entitled" to it? Did SHE apologize? And how do you know it was only once?

Man that's not a small thing...and I know it must have embarrassed the heck out of you. OUCH.


.again my D and her D are not the same.... her D is the type to take a hundred pics a night infront of the mirror for a perfect FB pic or a twitter pic..... where mine has some insecurities.....

you are scorekeeping with kids^^.!!!

First, You slighted the daughter of your w, and then you defended your d or gave some very vague type of cover for...what I assume is poor conduct on her part. WHY? I just asked if they got along. Of course they are not the same.

I noticed you don't refer to her as your Stepdaughter or daughter either, but as your "w's d". And this is only a few months old...wow.

I have two d's 8 years apart. So far, it looks as if one is more beautiful than the other. So what? I have 3 sisters We were not "equal" in looks but we loved each other and my two d's do not "equate" LOOKS wise but they are loved very much by me and their dad for who they are.


I know by my D stealing from her D created a problem...... we had talked about all of this happening... that there would be problems that would come up.... we really did try to prepare for the worse case secinaro....I just think between that.. and school... and turning 40 that it was going to happen... no matter what I did..

well then I guess there's nothing to learn from or do differently...

come on, is it really easier to see it that way?