I can't even begin to explain how out of character this is for her..... if the old W seen her now... she would kick her a$$.... and that's no lie.... she would always make comments to me about how I would always leave her.. she would never leave me....."if you have nothing to hide then you hide nothing" another one of the old W quotes.... would throw that at me every three months or so.... whenever we would hear about another couple going thru troubles....
like you I don't want to waste time on labels... this site has brought so much peace to my life... just reading other post.. knowing I wasn't the only one going thru this..... that other stories were so close to my own..
my first ex wife was bi polar when I met her.... the oldest daughter was getting getting the full bi polar treatment from my ex w and couldn't take it anymore.... I had fought for custody twice and it took a great deal of time.. money and energy out of my life... but my W was sooo supportive of me... she knew that I was both a great step father and a father to my own children... and was dealing with a crazy X...... but she took it on full force... she use to make comments like she wasn't afraid of my X.... and she would do whatever it took for me to get my kids back in my life..... and I loved her even more because of it....
my daughter came to live with use in sept... my W and her daughter made her feel welcome at first.... but shortly after her daughter started to feel the attention was going towards my daughter and didn't like it much... remember.. her daughter has basically been an only child up to this point... even thought my kid would come to visit.... she was the one that lived there full time.....
I know that my daughter just being in the house caused problems... she looked at my daughter and all she seen was work that needed to be done...... normally she would be more than happy to help... but because she was in school.... she could't deal with both being a full time nursing student..... a mom.... and a new full time step mom........it's the straw that broke the camels back... but it's not the problem.... this has been brewing for the past year...... I see that now.....
I will answer the rest in the morning since we are pushing 130..... and we lose an hour tonight... Thanks again for all your help.. I can't begin to repay you... I hope you know that... and I am sure everyone else you help on here feels the same way....
M-39 W-41 T-9yrs BD-Dec 2012 “regardless of your choices and the fact that they may have caused me to experience painful emotions, I still love you because I recognize the purpose of our journey.”
