3 Years after D-Day, part 2. Separated 9 Months.

[Am I Too Late]

Hi again everyone.

I needed an emotional break.

It seems like some things have changed since the beginning of the year.

Firstly, she still hasn't kept in consistent contact with our Son, who just turned 10 last month. Contacts with him since Thanksgiving have been a visit for 4 hours at her apartment the day before Thanksgiving. An overnight visit on December 23rd. A several hour visit on MLK Day holiday. A joint going to the movie theater on his birthday where i picked her up and dropped her off. Then A 1 hour visit on Presidents day.

On the birthday, it was just a fun day with enjoying the movie and she approached me when i dropped her off and she gave me a half-hearted hug.

On Valentines Day, i sent a written letter apologizing for my side of where we were at. She immediately called me and said, "Don't you think that I'm, (herself), the one that needs to be sorry. I turned everyones life upside down a year earlier."

Also, she later sent a message that she can probably add me to the list of everyone who hates her now.

I responded that i don't hate her, just what alcohol has done to her life. She appreciated what i had to say.

On Presidents Day, Monday, February 18th, she was supposed to have picked up our Son on Sunday after me and him got done with Church and she agreed to a request our son had made to meet us at the restaurant for brunch.

That didn't happen. Late that afternoon she messaged me that she couldn't find her car keys. I said i could have picked her up and dropped them both off at her apartment, so that's just an excuse.

Later that evening, she messaged me that the other guy will no longer be a problem, as they split up that day and he would be moving out the next morning. I wasn't aware he actually was living there.

She drove him around all the next morning to help him get his dads truck repaired instead of picking up our son.

Finally, at 2;00 pm she came over to pick him up and was really distraught looking. Earlier in the day she had messaged me to see if i still attend a particular Monday night AA meeting. I asked, that i didn't want to guess, but if she was considering going to it, then i would stay away from that one if she preferred. Shed said she was strongly considering it.

So, she picked up our son at 2 and was supposed to bring him to his karate class at 5:00 pm. At only 3:00, she called me and said she couldn't handle being with our son and asked where we could meet and if i could take him back.

I did and my son for the first time was in shock and confused. He later told me he is Mad and Sad about mommy.

She did go to that one AA meeting.

I sent her a daily encouragement and positive affirmations about doing the best that you can and felt i was being supportive. I also sent her an article on relapse warning signs, etc... , Well, on Saturday evening, she sent me a message that "I am not her sponsor and if i keep sending her stuff that has anything to do with anything other than our sob, she will take legal action to enforce that. " She said my apologies, references to her affairs, and to her drinking are shredding her apart."

That's absurd i told her. She could have visits or phone calls anytime she wants, but she chooses to not follow through.
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She said my apologies, references to her affairs, and to her drinking are shredding her apart.

I'm not in touch with her in the past 7 days and now it's been 20 days since her last contact with our son.

I'm finally going to file for child support.

The day she and that other guy split up was the one year anniversary of her moving out.

It looks like i have my commercial property sold and have some minor financial opportunities to help bail me out.

Me