Have been continuing to read up on you and your sitch despite my lack of posting. I find the way you handle your sitch with such dignity that it is inspiring. I don't have a lot to offer in terms of advice because our sitchs are not very similar.
The idea of growing a backbone and respect really resonates with me. I have been think a lot about that lately, especially after reading Tallula's recent updates. Something in me struck a chord.
I think I have been working a lot of lovingly detaching, but there is/was not a lot of bone in my back. And I think it has prevented me from truly letting go, in a loving matter. Its that d@mn fear. So even though I was very careful with my interactions with H and becoming the person I want to be, it was still coming from a place of fear and not strength in who I am and who I was and who I can be.
I agree with you that we need to love and respect ourselves first and foremost for ourselves, for our children and for all of our other Rs. When we do that, I think the rest will fall into place.
I hope all the best for you and your family Breakdown. And am with you in our quest to grow our backbones.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
