It is so sad that you have to deal with your teenagers problems on top of your R problems. My oldest is 13, so my parenting problems are still pretty small. At least:
"Just for pot, not any of the other 10 things they test for"
had to be some encouraging news. Keep strong.
I feel like I hijacked your thread, so I created a new one "Pity vs Empathy" I would post a link, but I don't know how. When I get a chance, I will respond to all the comments there. It is a lot to think about. Thank you for taking the time to read my comments and thinking about me. Figuring out how to frame my feelings about my W is one of the things I really need help with.
One last thing - about "Bro Showers". Regardless of what is actually happening, I can't see anything positive that would require "Bro showering". This seems like a good issue to take the Nancy Reagan "Just say no" approach. It is behavior that should just stop - no questions asked.
