Your friends see you in pain and they believe your W is the cause so they're telling you to move on to stop the pain. It's normal and pretty much everyone I know off the boards used to tell me the same thing. Wouldn't really be friends if they just watched you in misery and didn't say anything I explained to mine what I was doing and with most had to put the boundary saying no M or family talk. Unless you're in it most people just don't understand. Most are fine with it and don't bring it up anymore. Kind of a I don't understand but it's your life type of thing. Some can't do it and we've pretty much stopped talking.
It's a tough conversation to have with your buddies (and family) but one you'll likely have to have if you plan to stand. It just ends up being negative energy and thoughts and you don't need anymore of that noise.
Years of this is scary and why I asked you the question. Think about it this way, are you willing to give up 2 years of your life for a chance at a 50th anniversary knowing those 2 years are going to likely be hardest of your life? Good news is these boards are full of people that will support you all the way through.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
