No I have to agree cancelling with my buddies last night didn't help me much at all.. But I do have a question to ask... when it comes to friends. I find my friends (maybe because were guys) are putting a lot of pressure on me to "get over it" move on.... start dating? go and and find a FWB... forget about her. she's a horrible person. I keep telling them I need more time but they can't figure out why. They think the minute I found out there was OM that I should have went out and been with another girl. I really only have one friend that is supportive of me standing for my M. Everyone else thinks I am crazy... Yes they all agree that they thought we had a great marriage.. but it's done.. move on. So standing for my M is not easy when I am getting pressure from friends and always trying to get set up on dates.
Yes I do believe it is a MLC.. and yes after spending a month on here reading everything everyone's sitch I can see that it is going to be a long hard road.
I have read over the 6 stages of MLC... she does fit into them very well..
"The goal, is to outlast her MLC. Can you do that ? Do you want to do that ?"
I really want to outlast her MLC. Can I? do I want to do that? YES.. but it is going to really really HARD. I am in my 3rd month.... some people on here are in their 3rd year.. and that scares the hell out of me.
M-39 W-41 T-9yrs BD-Dec 2012 “regardless of your choices and the fact that they may have caused me to experience painful emotions, I still love you because I recognize the purpose of our journey.”
