Then I had to decide if the person she had become was someone I even wanted to be married to. What I asked myself is this- if I was single and met this woman, what would I think about her? Would I want to pursue her? Strangely the answer is no,
GTO, you've received great advice. I agree with PoN that IC tend to want you to "move on." I remember spending hours at my IC's and MC's office crying and feeling worse about myself. They would all say the same thing: "you're starting to grieve, blah blah." That's what they're taught to do in school. But what is it that you really feel?
As long as you are willing to be patient, choose to think you will save your M.
I quoted AS because I felt (and feel) exactly the same way. If my H were a stranger, I would never--NEVER--be interested in having a R with him, esp after all the lies and betrayal. I stayed with him bc I loved him and he was my H. Now that we're going through the D, he will be at the same "level" as anyone else, so I doubt I would ever choose him as my partner again, as sad as that is.
Big hug to you, and have an awesome time at tennis!!
