Raine, posting her to clarify thoughts is the true gift of this site. Along the way you find others that may give a few pointers or challenge some thoughts. They all help, but putting your thoughts down is the real gold in my opinion. The board has helped me a lot through all of this. I am blessed to have found so many helpful people and hopefully I can pay some of that back But keep in mind that it's your life and your decisions that count. We can only support you and challenge some of the thoughts. Don't stop posting, please. You'd be surprised how it helps others as well. We all go through the various stages, but it sometimes helps to see others going through similar. I caught another thread a while back with some folks who were here about the same time as me. They are going through things with their ex similar to what I deal with these days. It helps to know it's not just me.
As for your H, the depression is not a *bad* thing per se. Know that feeling you have of your heart and mind being out of sync sometimes? Imagine that tenfold. But it's how growth happens. It's happening for you as well. For him, there is much more for him to do and his body is letting him know it. He has to go through it. I say this so you don't worry so much. His ups and downs are a nauseating reminder of what he's going through. But he must go through it. And he will.
Glad you're enjoying the boys. They grow up so fast. An 8 year old talking like a 14 year old? Yep, par for the course. The hard part is noticing when they act like an 8 year old again. Happens in the blink of an eye! They are kids after all.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
But keep in mind that it's your life and your decisions that count. We can only support you and challenge some of the thoughts. Don't stop posting, please. You'd be surprised how it helps others as well. We all go through the various stages, but it sometimes helps to see others going through similar. I caught another thread a while back with some folks who were here about the same time as me. They are going through things with their ex similar to what I deal with these days. It helps to know it's not just me. 