Um, wait a second. Deep signs of co-dependence? But go find some help in dealing with that? But don't have the conversation right now about how you want him gone (or at least to stop with the OW?)
That seems like a lot of mixed messages to me. I'm a big fan of not talking while angry. But I'm also a fan of knowing when a line has been crossed. If that is co-dependence, then I'm confused.
The other behaviors? It sounds like you are more of a mom figure to him than a W. But letting him know you won't be second choice doesn't seem out of line with getting things..well, back in line for you.
Did I miss something in this exchange, OT? Anyone?
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
