Stuck..how do I get out???

[tiredndrained]

I was originally posting in newcomers but at this point I'm not feeling so new. My original thread is http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...71#Post2325571.
After months and months of running around and anger my mlc H seems to have gotten better. For the past few weeks I saw him being nice,attentive to our two children, and on occasion affectionate to me. I really thought we were turning a corner and then wham... this week he seems to have gotten distant again. When I confronted him this morning it turned into an all out argument. I left the house crying and feeling awful because he seems to blame everything on me. After months of IC and moving forward I once again feel stuck and that I am not incontrol and blaming myself. I am starting the process of filing for bancrupcy and fixing the finances so I can move ahead. I just can't figure out why he still blames me and why I listen. I feel stuck in this spot all over again. Does this happen to anyone else and how do you move forward? When will he see that I am not the cause of all of our problems?