I didn't follow DB completely though. At one point she asked me the "why did it take this long for you to make all these changes". I told her I didn't really know but before BD I wasn't ready myself to make changes and told her I guess I had to do a lot of wrong things and make bad decisions to know what the right things looked like. She was asking questions and seemed receptive to hearing things so I talked more than I probably should have about things I had worked on (told ya I didn't follow DB 37 rules). If nothing else I think it made her think because she was up pretty late looking deep in thought. I'm sure it made little difference in big picture but for whatever reason I felt better. Since then I've continued towards the "backing into reality" mindset by creating a little friendly distance.
I don' think it is bad to answer questions about change if spouse asks why. I would not go overboard talking about all the changes, but explaining why seems ok, IMO.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
