Not a whole lot different in my sitch, just moving along. Been spending a lot of time on MLC forum reading and talking with people and it's becoming clear to me that this is where W is residing rather than pure WAS. Pretty sure she read Midlife for Dummies thread because she's following the advanced version perfect .
Someone is interested in buying our house and it's not even on market yet so that's had me a little tied up this week. It's another step towards D which blows. Other issue was kids were home during the showing, I got home that night and D7 obviously wasn't doing good with it and was VERY mad at mom. I got her calmed down and we had another talk later that night. Hard stuff acting 'as if' everything is fine with kids when I'm struggling with this stuff myself. So far I'm doing good with it though.
W and I had talk about selling house, custody, etc...a couple days ago and I was very calm throughout and validated pretty well. She tried to push buttons a couple times and spewed some complete nonsense a few other times but I didn't let it affect me this time.
I didn't follow DB completely though. At one point she asked me the "why did it take this long for you to make all these changes". I told her I didn't really know but before BD I wasn't ready myself to make changes and told her I guess I had to do a lot of wrong things and make bad decisions to know what the right things looked like. She was asking questions and seemed receptive to hearing things so I talked more than I probably should have about things I had worked on (told ya I didn't follow DB 37 rules). If nothing else I think it made her think because she was up pretty late looking deep in thought. I'm sure it made little difference in big picture but for whatever reason I felt better. Since then I've continued towards the "backing into reality" mindset by creating a little friendly distance.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
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