Thanks

[PatientMan]

Does anyone have any input on my thoughts of splitting the tax refund 50/50? Thoughts:

• I have the money ear-marked for a few family-centric items (savings, roof for jointly owned property).
• It's a couple of thousand dollars, so the amount is certainly significant. I'm by far the primary wage earner, but that only takes into account income and doesn't reflect familial contributions, which is where I arrive at just splitting 50/50.
• I understand not paying for the divorce, but since we are headed down that path it makes sense to at least offer her the check. She can always hand it back.
• A little money in her account might de-stress her some. If money is in the way of any of her decisions right now, then perhaps this will allow her some clarity.
• I don't want to be or appear as her money controlling overlord.

I hate talking myself into handing over several thousand dollars when there are family items I would like to fund with that money, but I think offering is the right thing to do and may reveal where her mind is at right now.

(That sounded kind of manipulative to type that last part, and that isn't why I'm doing this. I guess it's a potential secondary effect of taking this action. I don't at all think she'll treat me any differently with a little money in the bank, but it may be informative if she did.)