Our summer travel to the States will be the next real discussion with my W, one that we need to have soon. It is possible that W will agree with my "since we've paid so much and are already in the area, let's travel for two weeks" plan, but last year, when we were all in San Francisco, having paid a bunch to get there, she and the kids only stayed one week, something that seemed crazy and wasteful to me.
So making a plan ahead of the discussion seems a good idea:
anticipating her possible objections, starting with the hardest first:
1. no, we are only staying a week (just because I want it that way) 2. let's not spend so much money on travel (and be at home instead) 3. we are moving (after selling the house) and the kids need to help
Any suggestions for responses? I can see 1. boiling down to a contest of wills, 2. eliciting a "but we can afford it, and the American West is a beautiful place", and 3. causing all hell to break out when I say that I am not planning to move.
Of course, W could travel back by herself, and the kids and I travel some more. I don't want to create a "kids caught in the middle" situation though.
Could also see S and I traveling more together (he said as much: "I'm always up for visiting National Parks!"), and my D is supposed to spend some more time in California with MIL and me, so maybe D stays more in any case.
I'd be most obliged for any suggestions -
Thanks,
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
