Life, One Day at a Time (22 months)

[25yearsmlc]

Oh yeah she said they do the "bro showers" at her house too and she says it's definitely not to smoke pot. I asked if she didn't think it was a little weird that homophobic adolescent male athletes are taking showers for extended periods in our upstairs bathrooms? Naaahhhh, she's pretty sure it's fine.


So I asked s25 and d15 if they'd ever heard the terms "Bro showers". They both asked me why I was asking...

then D15 said, "it's gay." She has no doubt.

S25 said "it's definitely sexual for some or all of them..."

Then I explained that these were athletes, even "homophobic ones".

S25 asked " You mean they are taking a shower together in someone's bathroom? NOT the school's gym facility? Mom, the only reason two or more guys are in a locked bathroom together, is for sex or maybe drugs."

Then he said "'bro showers' is a term for today's gay bath houses..." and "who cares if they pretend to be homophobic? What's new about that?"

Your son may have a lot he wants to share or discuss with you. I was that age when I realized my 30 y/o softball coach (female) was dating the 3rd baseman who was my age (in high school).

Maybe tomorrow IS a good day to get it all out, maybe not. Then again it might explain a lot of what he's trying to deal with.

But cross that bridge if & when you get to it...one thing at a time.

You are not alone.