.I think the right reaction isn't rage, but PityEmpathy. My W like your H is in a lot of emotional pain. After pityBecause of empathy, grace and forgiveness can happen. Personally, I have some emotions to work through before I am there.
There.. fixed that for ya.
Great point....
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