I don't advocate outrage. In fact I agree with you, and wish I had more control over my emotions. I couldn't handle what you are handling with such calm. When I get angry, it is usually counterproductive and I regret it. I notice that this situation is forcing me to get better control over this particular emotion.
I think the right reaction isn't rage, but Pity. My W like your H is in a lot of emotional pain. After pity, grace and forgiveness. Personally, I have some emotions to work through before I am there.
well said.^^^ No matter how "right" the anger feels, no matter how justified, this place (DBing) stresses finding solutions to our situations.
And anger sure did not work in my situation. It just does not help.
It was hard to let go of b/c I defended it, I almost cultivated it. I believed in it. And I was wrong, b/c it harmed me, our marriage and our children, far more than it helped anyone or anything.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
