New to all this!

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Thanks for the replies. I think it will be helpful to be able to 'chat' with people in similar circumstances.

Thank you anotherStander for the hints on how to reply if/when H says he wants to move out. I had planned on a simple 'OK' but felt it didn't convey exactly how I felt.

I spent the day yesterday with H in the truck. I'm sure he was expecting me to want to talk about how we are going but I chose to just chill out and enjoy the day. Before kids, and when our eldest was a baby I regularly went with him in the truck but as the kids got older it got more difficult, and he couldn't always guarantee we would be home at a certain time to collect them from school, therefore I just got out of the habit. It was one of H complaints that I wouldn't go so I have been trying to get out with him more often, and I enjoy it! It makes me sit and do nothing, and H gets my undivided attention!

Sandi's tips are saved on my ipad - if I could have them pinned to the fridge I would!!!! Also the DR book is ordered and hopefully on its way, I might have to disguise that one with a cookery book cover!