.I think the right reaction isn't rage, but PityEmpathy. My W like your H is in a lot of emotional pain. After pityBecause of empathy, grace and forgiveness can happen. Personally, I have some emotions to work through before I am there.
There.. fixed that for ya.
M(f): 43 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.