You wrote: "I met a really great guy on Okcupid. The problem is, he lives in Oregon. But, I'm enjoying his words and just letting it evolve. We'll see where it goes...."
FWIW, I have never heard of a story like this on these boards that ends well. The online stuff is for introductions. I truly know of no cases in which when this period got extended, the individuals involved didn't feel hurt and disappointed. Even with quick meetings, I don't recall any online daters (myself included) who haven't had the experience of feeling like they really clicked with someone only to find the complete opposite in person.
Right now, you are making an investment of time and emotions in someone you don't know.
So, for your own sake, try to meet sooner rather than later. Much sooner. Like this weekend. Perhaps a hike in Idaho?
Yeah, gotta admit, best to meet quickly. The long-distance guys may be married, scammers, or you just may invest a lot of time and then find out there's no chemistry in person.
That being said - I'll have to admit, my first online date was a guy who lived 11 hours away, we chatted for 2 months before I impulsively went up to see him (NOT recommended, but lucky for me, we hit it off great. I dated him for a year until his long lost college love showed up - we're still great friends, and his adult children still love me).
But it was very inconvenient and nowadays, I've got about a two hour drive radius that I'm willing to work in - that's it.
The longer I have been dating, the smaller the radius for travel seems to become. With me it is now about 30-35 miles max, when I first started it was maybe 60.
Good luck with all your efforts, great posts!
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
He's flying here in two weeks. We've chatted on the phone and emailed every day. It's like meeting a new friend. I was VERY honest and said I did not wish to continue our conversations if he would not be willing to move from Oregon (if we decided we wanted that). I don't know guys, this one writes with so much emotion and openness. I've never had that. If nothing else, it shows me there are men who can meet me with the depth I'm seeking in a person.
He will be staying in a hotel with a rental car.....
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
