Totally! Hello doormat! You're right, that I need to look at it positively. It was just two months ago he told me I would never be able to forgive him for all he is done and we need to start working on the D. Lots of affirmation has taken place since then.
Um, no. Not doormat. If you were, he'd see right through that, as would the rest of us.
There's a fine line between being a doormat and being a caring, supportive person. Being the person that anybody would be a fool to walk away from. A very fine line. I don't think you've crossed that line at all. What you are doing is far harder than being a doormat. In my experience it is very easy to be a doormat or a punching bag. It's far harder to spend the time to be a caring person. And mean it. Be careful not to cross that line, but then again, I'm thinking you have a handle on that.
Oh, and it wouldn't break your heart if you didn't care. Trust me on that.
You are truly a gift. He's right when he says this is his problem and you are amazing.
Keep up the good work. Don't let up and don't be discouraged as things can get sideways easily. This really is all about him and he won't make a straight line toward figuring it out and he may or may not return. But that's not to say you don't care. You do and it shows. And it's a good thing no matter how things go. Step back and see that if you can.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
