Here we go loopty loo. Here we go loopty li.

[AJM]

I wasn't expecting to be dealing with H opening up at this point.

Really? At what point did you think that was coming? Or did you? Honestly, I don't think you can expect that with any kind of reality. I also think it plays a part in how you feel towards him. Don't worry, that would be normal and that doesn't mean it will stay that way. Roller-coasters and balance and all that...

He told her that he knows I would forgive him for anything. (I have mixed feelings about this one, as does that mean he takes it as I am going to forgive him/love him no matter what, so he can continue to go down this path for awhile, take on more and more women, knowing I'll forgive him and thus take him back no matter what?)

Your ego getting bruised a little at that one? I imagine so! But another way to look at (and who really knows what he means) is that he feels "safer" with you and sharing his feelings. He knows he cannot hurt you continuously. He also knows he's broken. And he knows he is trying to fix it the best way he can. But he knows it's not you, and that's HUGE to be honest. What happens from there is still up to him. But it is, and always was, up to you as well. You are not trapped or in limbo. You are simply watching him figure himself out. There are many here who would have LOVED to have that conversation and deal with the problems of wondering if they felt something more than compassion for their MLCr. But what you describe is positive, and yet sad. It's a long long road that you two are on. Still going to be bumps.

Take a look in the archives and see how some of the folks that came out of the fog did it and the timelines. And what the LBS went through as it was going on. I think you'll see my thought process.

No matter what though, it doesn't mean he is done. He is not. He has more to do and you'll need to continue to let him.

I told him I was sorry he felt that way.

Great way to end the conversation. I applaud that and I believe you meant it.

Peace,

AJ