Appearance and change of attitude will make him take a second look. Think of the Sandy character from Grease. Nobody paid her a second look until the end when she changed her physical appearance AND attitude.
This will show him that it's definitely not the same.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.