Thanks J. I've heard the request to be allowed to date while staying married. That got a good laugh out of me. And my W let me have the F-you/this speech on the way to MC. It was like dragging someone to rehab to stop doing drugs, instead of an attempt to save her family.
Mine is the polar opposite of who she was too. A real sweetheart for years, but now is a complete dud. I was thinking the other day, W doesn't cook, clean, do laundry, or grocery shop (until two weeks ago). She spends money like crazy, is gaining weight, and has a habit of drinking too much. Call me crazy, but she's got an uphill battle on finding someone to deal with that long term. Short term (getting the goods), sure.
Good luck with mediation. If W pushes for a D, I'll be going through the same. The first time she mentioned D I told her she would get the boys every other weekend, and they would be with me the rest of the time. I truly believe that was the one statement that has caused her to hit the brakes. In typical mlc fashion, she thought I was going think she was doing me a favor by giving me time away from my kids. Who doesn't want to be able to go out and party all night?? Uh, no thanks.
M - 42 W- 37 S's - 9,6 M-12 T-14 FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011 ILYBNILWY - march '12 FIL - died jan '13 W Moved out week later
