Dealing with the financial stuff is in some senses the hardest of all. Unless he gets what he wants/believes he is 'entitled to', there will be nothing that will stop him being furious.
It's hard to keep DB-ing under these circumstances, but you seem to have a handle on it:
"still extending love but need to stand up for myself"
And yes, how could things EVER have ended up like this between us and our spouses....
