"He's only doing that because of the things that transpired over the weekend, he thinks I might be moving on. But we have been here before - he reels me back in and then continues more of his same - with no intention of mvoing back (his words)."

I hear you. So...don't let him reel you back in. This is a pattern from me and H too. I am not being reeled back in this time. As MWD says in DR, we must try these 180's for weeks to access whether they are working or not. I have not consistantly pulled back. I gave myself an internal time frame of 3/31. Then I will access. Not, I pull back for a week, he chases, I'm close again, he' s mean...cycle, cycle.

YOU can choose to stop the dynamic!!

M: 9 yrs
T: 13 yrs
H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months
Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs
Dbing 12/12
S 1/13
7/13 H moved back in basement.
8/13 #3 born
10/13 still cheating
10/13 He moves across country, I file for D