If you did, then you'll understand that it's not all about the OW. Which is what you've been focusing on. You have to get off that focus.
"I also had my thyroid removed since we separated and I am such a better person with a normal and even temperment all the time. But he isn't giving me the time to see that."
Because of all the past hurt that was put on him. He had just passed his breaking point and doesn't want to deal with you. PLUS he has no assurances that you won't go back to being the same. No amount of promises is going to be a guarantee. He has to see it in whatever limited contact you have with him.
"He insists he met her for a reason. I swear this is fog babble."
Again, you're missing the point. You explain how your mood swings were very damaging to him. So it's natural that when another person comes along to validate how they're feeling, that person is seen as being a sympathetic partner. It's not "fog babble".
"I probably left some things out so ask anything you want to know."
What changes have you made so far? What are you concrete goals (as described in DR).
"He was unhappy with the constant tension my mood swings created. He complained to her, she was unhappy in her marriage too"
This sums it all up.
"and then began the affair where they are "soulmates" and "meant to be" and I believe this is hogwash."
That's what's stopping you from making positive steps forward. It is not "hogwash" to him and it doesn't matter what YOU believe. It is what HE believes and right now it's all that matters.
Again, what changes have YOU made?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
