Life with a Cake Eater

[mizjjd]

Just don't let your anger and hurt drive the conversation, don't let him see you upset. Perhaps the more calm you are, the more nervous he will be. He is expecting you to act like a maniac. Prove him wrong.

I am feeling surprisingly calm - so far. I really astonished myself on the phone call to the ow - I could have been asking for directions to the local store, that's how emotional I was. (She still hasn't phoned back, btw.)

When H phoned earlier, playing all dumb, I told him I hoped we could have a civil conversation. Said I will struggle with that because I am upset, but that I will do my best. In return I asked him to be honest with me. (HAH. I don't expect this, but figured I'd give it a shot.) This prelude was when he said "Oh. Maybe we better do this face to face." Throughout my tone was "business like".

I am determined to take "the high road" here, not succumb to Jerry Springer antics. Hopefully I can keep my demeanor. (Although, in mentally rehearsing the upcoming confrontation I just know H is going to ask "where am I supposed to go?" And I SO want to say "How about you "FLY TO THE MOON" " (ALA the nauseating song lyrics she sent.)

Thanks again for the encouraging words!!