I haven't been here for a few days, wanted to check in. I'm in such a different place than I was a few weeks ago. And now I'm praying that decisions I make are right.
While I am not ready to file, it is heavy on my mind. I applaud those of you that can keep at this for so long. While I am happy with myself, I feel like part of my life is on hold while we are still in this situation.
Originally Posted By: bblake1968
[quote=Lovemyfamily] But I am getting really tired of being the justification to his anger - I'd even take 75% ownership of our M problems, but it seems he wants me to take 100%. No what I mean?
All too well. My W says she's been unhappy for the entire 24 years we've been married. I know it's not true, but, she's convinced of that fact - or at least wants me to believe that. Those claims have decreased, somewhat, but, I do understand where you are at.
24 years? Isn't it great how they make this stuff up to make themselves feel better? Mine says he is the way he is because I ignored him the first 3 years of our marriage. Ohhhhhkayyy.
Originally Posted By: LMF
This past year he has very much gone into text rampages. He will typically only do this in text messages, would not say this stuff to your face. Sometimes it will be voer the most trivial topic and he maybe won't like the way I worder the question...and here he goes, how I still can't ask nicely, etc (see previous posts)
There comes a certain amount of bravery when one isn't face to face. Again, using my W as an example, she's said things to me via text that she would never say to my face. Maybe that's their way of getting anger out of the way so when you do meet in person, it takes the edge off. Didn't work that way for me as I was still pissed at the names she called me...
Making idle threats from afar; that's normal for some people. I do find it ironic that he may be (probably is) seeing someone on the side, but, you're not allowed because your married to him. Selective M vow enforcement? It's a childish game, really, that he is playing. All under the guise of his happiness above all other things in life...
quote] That is exactly how I feel about all of that. He's hiding behind the phone and has for a long time. I like that term 'selective M vow enforcement'. (well, I don't like it, but it's fitting here!) I do not have proof of him seeing anyone, although there have been lots of 'coinceidents' that would suggest so.
I'm just getting really tired of it all. The rants, the accusations, then moving into the last few days with him swinging back the other way and texting me funny jokes, being nice.
He's only doing that because of the things that transpired over the weekend, he thinks I might be moving on. But we have been here before - he reels me back in and then continues more of his same - with no intention of mvoing back (his words).
Well, I don't deserve to be second or your 'when I want you to be my wife'.
Now some of my bitterness tends to seep out when I get into all this...I know it's there and I'll deal with it.
