I agree with this and have really learned it over the course of my ordeal. One of the more frustrating things for me is that I don't think my XW sees it this way.
I would never vocalize this to her, but I (all of us, really) have a million reasons why I could just shut down and say I don't love anymore. Most of us here have all been through hell in one way or another. Somehow I am blessed (cursed?) with the ability to look past the hurt, all the things that were said and done and STILL love her. Like I said, it just gets frustrating that it has yet to flow both ways.
