So you mentioned anger and controlling...what are you doing differently here?
For anger, I have realized I am not gaining anything by being angry and that when I am angry, it puts me in a mind frame of being unhappy. And since this ordeal has started, I have noticed that I have become an unhappy person and I know even I wouldn’t want to be around myself. I have been trying to work out more, read and practice anger management techniques, breathing exercise, try not to speak when angry since it usually ends up being something I later regret.
For the controlling issue, I am still trying to figure it out. Like I said, I know W’s action is not something I can control and I have to let the chips fall where they may. I have minimized of asking her where about (unless with S). I am trying to figure out why I am this way and not sure the root cause of it.
I also think even though these issues are expressed at people/W, I think it is due to lack of self-esteem/ self worth. I need to love myself more and know deep down inside I am a good person. I have keep telling that to myself and start really believing it. Its try what they say of how can you love somebody if you don’t love yourself
Me:36,W:37 M:8, T:13 S:3yo, D:10yo (mine) BD 10/12 and 01/13 DBing since 02/13 W moved out 8/13
