I no longer get this reinforement from my H and when I've asked, he tells me that I should know this is how he feels. So now that I've lost a good bit of weight and stocked my closet with mini skirts, I no longer care whether or not H makes comments. I know in my own mind that I still "got it", and if we split, it is H's losss and he will never get the complete package that I have to offer from anyone else.
Amen At least you're in piecing, so you're getting at least that much interest from your H although I will say he's a fool if he thinks he doesn't need to tell you because you should just "know". Has he read 5LL? He needs to practice it.
It still amazes me that the woman who told me how sexy and good-looking I was for 25 years now can barely force herself to tell me she likes my new shirt, LOL! Strange how they can just flip a switch like that. After BD I felt utterly ugly, old, uninteresting and unattractive. I was downright surprised when women found out I was separated and started showing interest. Women who were younger. A LOT younger in some cases. It was a revelation to find out that women DO find me attractive. I really bought into my W's concept of me being unappealing and not worth any effort, but once I found out that it was specifically her view and not shared by any other woman around me I realized that this really is all about her. And I think your comment about the 3 guys is just your way of pointing out the same about yourself- you're good-looking, desirable and attractive and you deserve to be reminded of that whether by H or others
At least you're in piecing, so you're getting at least that much interest from your H although I will say he's a fool if he thinks he doesn't need to tell you because you should just "know". Has he read 5LL? He needs to practice it. 
