Alias, Sailing is right, you've got to detach from the roller coaster ride. Check out Sandi's DB tips thread at the top of the forum and live those tips!! Here are a few that I think apply to your sitch:
1. Do not pursue, reason, chase, beg, plead or implore. 4. Do not follow her around the house. 12. Act as if you are moving on with your life. 13. Be cheerful, strong, outgoing and attractive. 14. Don't sit around waiting on your spouse - get busy, do things, go to church, go out with friends, etc. 15. When home with your spouse, (if you usually start the conversation) be scarce or short on words. 16. If you are in the habit of asking your spouse her whereabouts, ASK NOTHING. 17. You need to make your partner think that you have had an awakening and, as far as you are concerned, you are going to move on with your life, with or without your spouse. 19. No matter what you are feeling TODAY, only show your spouse happiness and contentment. Show her someone she would want to be around. 26. Learn to back off, shut up and walk away when you want to speak out.
