Looks like I'm still in moderation. I read through many of the threads on the MLC boards like you suggested. I do feel that my ex is going thru a MLC. She may have been going through one for about a year before her affair. I had no idea they could last so long. Currently she is still displaying some of the same behaviors even though we have been divorced 11 months.

After reading through so many posts, I have realized that the only thing I can do now is let her go completely and move on. She definitely knows I still love her and I have to get better for my sake and for my girls. I have so many questions to ask but it's hard to be on moderation. Hopefully this will end soon.


Me: 48
EW: 40
D8, D12
Married 13 wonderful years
D in Apr-12