Don't push for anything right now but when you do talk with him ask lots of open-ended questions so he has to talk more. Is he an "I've got to think about things" guy? If so, don't bring anything up for awhile. Remember, nothing moves fast in this world.
Trying to manage the R with Ds would be a backslide, let him take the lead if he will.
Family counseling might be good but if he's not there, he's not there.
Good luck!
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
