It's so nice to come here and read about the growth of friends. It's not just nice, it's inspiring.

Your H must be very unsettled about the job situation. He has a lot on his plate, of his making of course but still.

About your D4, it's understandable that she wouldn't act out with H because he's the one who left, she wouldn't want to upset him and drive him further away.

When my S20 was first diagnosed, I worried (and still do a bit) that S23 would take on that role. S20 has taken up a lot of space in everyone's life and he has from the day he was born.

But we do the best we can with what we have. I think just being cognizant of the possibility is helpful. S23 and I have talked about it and he says he doesn't feel he took that on.

Keep going, Keep Going!

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss