SS, why were the 3 guys worth a mention? Because I need to know I still "got it", even if I just smile and walk away. It's important for my ego. I don't get that kind of reinforcement from H.
I no longer get this reinforement from my H and when I've asked, he tells me that I should know this is how he feels. So now that I've lost a good bit of weight and stocked my closet with mini skirts, I no longer care whether or not H makes comments. I know in my own mind that I still "got it", and if we split, it is H's losss and he will never get the complete package that I have to offer from anyone else. Can you try to think of yourself like that and not seek the reinforcement from H? I think that will help with your resentment.
I'm by no means perfect in this area. I see that you are seeking a lot of outside validation of yourself for your own happiness and self-reassurance. You know you don't get that from H and have not for some time. Are you setting yourself up for failure going forward? Is this a character/personality defect of H? And will it ever change?
Do I get mad when H gives other women compliments? Yes, but I try not to let it bother me any more like it used to. H recently said something about 2 women being hot or something to that effect. They are airshow performers, so I looked at their website. They are dried up. I had to laugh to myself and ask what the h3ll he saw that was hot. Maybe the exhaust pipe on their vehicle?
Let us know if you were able to talk about this in MC and what happened. Do you see MC helping your M at all at this point?
M44 H57 D17 (special needs) M 18 yrs Bomb 7/2/12 Still living together
