Okay, the apple tree is pretty much clipped. It would have been more assertive to do this when she is here, defying her to her face as it were, but I did it now and am glad.
Yes, I knew when I put the phone book on the floor that it was passive aggressive and not the best solution. I hadn't realized how unattractive it was though - thanks adinva. The using words thing - confrontation - is the tough part.
The room door thing is no longer relevant, as I find I snore sometimes (it wakes me up). I'd rather not keep her awake by insisting on an open door, so that is off my goal list.
Also, on the human contact front, while I was clipping the apple tree, a 62 yr old, very fit, runner I often see came slowly walking by. We started talking and it turned out he had had an aortic aneurysm a few weeks ago. I invited him in (had never done this before) to a cup of coffee. It was chastening to hear how fragile, in spite of all the running, we are... His prognosis is good and he is lucky to be alive (only 25% survive this apparently) and may even be able to run again.
Briefly touched wife this morning - had the impression that she recoiled - but this needs to be retried -
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
