Floyd, dude, I heart you but you are spinning. You tend to take things to catastrophic levels when they are just plain bad, that's all. Friends a mess, really? What concern is that of yours? Leave them out of this. Same for extended families. This is between you and W and your kids. You are not responsible for what any of those extended people think, feel, want, or hope for. In fact you may not even like what they think, feel, want, or hope for. Or they may be telling you one thing and then saying the same to W. Who knows. People do NOT know the right things to say and they only want things to be less awkward and nobody gets hurt. You have to just live your life best as you can and ignore whoever's outside your fishbowl.
Financials I believe. W I believe.
Are the kids a mess? How are you helping them to learn to cope when life is hard? This is not the last hard thing that will come in their lives. You need to get a grip (sorry).
Is she going to say crazy things in the divorce? You bet. I'm sure a lot of spouses do. Why are you getting so worked up over the fact that she's paying her lawyer to repeatedly tell you something you already know? You don't have to get worked up over that. I feel as if you're panicking and every detail is sending you into more frenzy.
Please try to find something that gives you some peace and contentment. Please try to ignore her shenanigans, and stop worrying about who sees or hears what. Be a great dad and a great man, in the midst of the hurricane that is W. There's no good alternative right now.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
