AJ, I'm doing well, but have really been feeling my age lately.
Eric, as for me showing anger the last time I saw her, I felt like I failed because I feel like showing anger just convinces her more. Showing it doesn't do anybody any good anyways.
To answer Eric's and 25's questions:
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1) what would "being done" with her, (i.e., letting go) look like to you?
Not giving a damn what she's doing or how she is doing. Letting all of her actions just roll off my back.
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2) If you stopped attaching your present day happiness to HER choices, (past/present or future), what's the worst that could happen?
I'm not sure...I guess I could find happiness on my own.
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3) What do you truly believe your sons are learning from you, as you are now?
They may think I'm weak. They probably assume I need to have her in order to be happy.
I'm currently looking for another job and I may have one. I'll know later this week. The work from home job was nice but, I wasn't getting many hours and I really need to get out of the house.
I've been really sick this week. I'm not sure what it is, but it is a doozy.
As of today, I am on food stamps.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
