My wife has continued the emails. We are negotiating over how many nights out she will go the gym, and also her going out afterwards with her "gym friends" who are 80% male. Essentially my wife is telling me "this is what I'm going to do, otherwise I need to leave the relationship."
In our last conversation on the topic, I validated what she was saying. I said, "I understand where you're coming from" ... I asked if she understood me because she never really responds to what I say. She said yes, but I don't think she really thinks about it.
Also to make her point she likes to remind me that she is "not in love with anybody right now" "has thought about divorce for years..." and other similar stuff. -- All very depressing.
